Today, went for lunch with a girl of my age - she is tog with her bf for 4yrs, their bto shld be ready somewhere end of next year, which means to say she is supposed to get married next year. and with a guy 12 years our senior, married for 3 years.

so with a fellow trainee and a beginning teacher, we had our convo on work of cos.. and also abit of personal life..

the guy shared on his past job experience, his marriage..
the girls shared on the basics of our relationship. well, i still refer u as my bf cos they all know im attached.. and how long.. close to 6 years. honey, i wanna be able to say that confidently next time.

the other girl shared that cos the bto house is coming, they are getting the pressure to get married. her bf is all for it and is pressing her for marriage. but she feels that she isnt ready.. she feels that her mindset is still changing.. and that for now she wanna focus on career. cos she feels that its only now she can chiong.. and that girls expires really quickly.. so she just wanna shelve the marriage idea for a year.. but the guy and his family doesnt want. so thats her trouble now..

then the guy said that it is normal to doubt yourself as u approach marriage. like after he proposed he went through a period of thinking.. is this girl really the right one? etc.. then he say, its cos of the huge commitment that has to be made when marriage is concerned. so its normal to feel scared. but think back on why he even proposed. that will eventually solve the issue if u love the person.

as i hear that, i mean i so hope that you, my honey will wanna get married with me.. yes i wont give up career, but neither will i give up family.. i think that the setting up a family is my ultimate goal. i really really wanna do it with u.. i will wait patiently for this day to come..

as we were talking about commitment in a marriage, the guy also did say must think carefully.. especially for girls.. well i think ppl really do see that thing quite highly.. he said that once u get married u can do that.. if u dont talk about pre-marital ones.. and that girls will definitely lose more.. and guy has nth to lose. hmmm... so this is still sth ppl will look at.. i.. only wanna lose it to u. ure the only one worth everything of me.

many say, must start saving up.. house and marriage is expensive. if everything was unchanged, i will really do.. i will save up cos of the house.. cos of everything that i envision with you.. and do it like a happy girl. now i think i will still do the same, as i wait for u.. just with a tinge of sadness cos of the uncertainty.

im glad u agreed to meet me today.. but u still hardly spoke to me.. honestly, u seem quite disinterested in my stuff. and i felt really sad too. but i think im building up my amours.. such that even though of your little words.. little interest that makes me so damn sad, i can still handle them.  but today, i distinctively felt your arms at my waist when i hug u before i leave..more so as compared to last week. just because of this action, im just so comforted. what little words, being disinterested, suddenly just becos u hug me back a little, im ok alr. honey, actually sometimes, im easily contented. 对你，我心很软。就像你对我一样。and when i say, after exams can go further to eat.. can spend more time with u. u said okay.. im really very comforted and happy. honey.. in some sense, u still havent let go of me right..? we still stand a chance right..? honey, whatever it is, dont underestimate our love for each other.. our r/s has grown over the years, past 6 years is not nothing.. we can overcome this huge challenge and work towards our future. believe in us..

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