Read a couple of post... and a few caught me...
"You’re flashing everyone your brightest smile, giving out doses of positivity while insecurities eat away at your core. Your stomach feels like it’s constantly being tied in tight, unraveling knots. You want so desperately to say everything that is on your mind, but words escape you. You never want to appear weak even if your lips did happen to stumble across the right sentences. Your friends wonder how someone who appears so calm and collected on the surface could be conflicted and struggling internally. You are the one who is always giving advice. The same advice you can never seem to take yourself. Harsh waves of bottled up emotion beat against the statue of the character you portray, weathering it down, and dulling your shine. How much longer can you wear the mask before it falls off?"
This is really sth.. i hang on strongly in front of others.. when i cant i hide and choose to be alone.. this mask will carry on till the day u come back to me.. unless u choose to leave me totally then prob i will just have to disappear instead.
[How do you know someone cares]
"Someone who cares will ask you how your day is. They want to know what you’re doing; they want to know if something significant has happened in your life. You don’t have to talk to them all the time, but when you do see them, they will want to know how you are. Not out of some sort of obligation, but because they genuinely want to know.
Someone who cares will tell you things. They’ll tell you how ridiculous that parking ticket was; they’ll tell you a joke they found hilarious. Some people share more than others, but someone who cares will tell you things that matter to them, no matter how small that thing is.
Someone who cares will listen. Now, there are times when they won’t listen well. We all do that sometimes: we’re distracted, or so excited we talk over each other. But a person who cares will listen to you regularly, because your opinions matter to them. The things you say make some sort of impact on them – your opinions make them think, or make them laugh. But in their way, whatever that way is, they will listen.
Someone who cares wants to see you. They like spending time with you. It’s not hard to read the pleasure on their face in your company. Someone who doesn’t care is ambivalent, or pays attention only when it suits their selfish purposes.
A person who cares about you will take time for you. Even if it’s just a few times a year – that friend from your hometown, the one separated from you by an entire 2000 miles. When you’re home, they will want to see you. They’ll chat with you online, or maybe they’ll call you. Sometimes weeks or months might pass, but when it counts, if in your darkest hour you need them, they will respond, and will do so gladly.
Someone who cares will not make you feel bad for taking up said time. Although they might be busy, so are you. They will want to spend the time on you because that is just what you do when you care for someone. They won’t make you feel bad for asking to hang out, feel guilty that your time is less valuable than whatever else they are doing.
People are never perfect, so you will not always get along with the person who cares about you. Sometimes you will be frustrated, or feel ignored, or accidentally ignore them, or fight. Mistakes will be made, because hey, we’re all human. But then time passes, and if you can, you rectify the situation. Because that’s what you do with people who truly matter.
Sometimes a person who once cared for you stops caring. Maybe they wanted to end your relationship, be it romantic, platonic, or familial. Maybe you did something wrong, or distance separated you, or they changed as a person. Sometimes you bond with someone, or do something for them, or have a heart-to-heart, and they care for you once more. Caring is a fluid thing that can change over time. But there are also some people who never really cared for you, people who you know will never care for you, no matter what you do.
People who don’t care will not text you back. If you make no effort to see them or talk to them, you know, deep down, they won’t try. They will forget you if you stop trying. Because if a person doesn’t care about you, they rarely think about you. They don’t care about your opinions. Because if you care about someone, they exist in your mind. You think about them, you wonder about them, perhaps not all the time, but they are there.
If it’s a boyfriend or girlfriend, someone who doesn’t care about you will not try to make you come. They are so concentrated on their own pleasure that yours means nothing to them. When you’re talking, they will not want to know how you are doing. I once decided to drive up to see an ex fling I hadn’t seen for a year. He did not ask a single question about me, but just talked about himself. If a person doesn’t care about you, they won’t register your facial expressions. They won’t try to smooth things over if things go wrong. They will never consider your feelings, but instead think only of their own.
A person who doesn’t care about you is not necessarily a bad person. It’s just that they are not attached to you. Maybe they have enough people in their life to care about. Maybe there are things about you they don’t like that they have never mentioned. Occasionally, they are just a selfish and uncaring person. Sometimes there is no real reason. But it is important to really think about the people who care about you and the people who don’t. Because when you care for someone, you invest in them. What happens to them affects you, and their lack of care will hurt you. So cherish the people who care about you, and do not invest your time, and your heart, into people who do not."
I care.. and i know u care. its just that even thou u care, there are other obstacles that prevents or stops u from truly caring now.. and honestly, that hurts damn alot too. but i gotta be strong, be it for your sake or for my own. but my strength, is still coming from the remaining care u have for me..
"1. Pet Names Aren’t Cheesy
…to you at least. When you and your partner are in a quality relationship that is bound to last, the ridiculous pet names that you call each other won’t seem the least bit embarrassing. Calling each other “bae” or “boo” can sound horrifying until it’s actually happening with the the right person. At that point, those names can take over and calling each other by your standard nicknames or *gasp your full names will seem awkward.
If you’re single hearing couples talk in public can be mildly uncomfortable, and listening to your friends talking about their significant other might make you feel like you need a drink. When you’re on the other side of the relationship however, it’s hard to see what makes any discussion about the two of you repulsive. They’re your better half, plain and simple.
2. You’re Trying New Things Together
Most of us have brought dates to do something we’ve always loved to do. That could be watching planes land at the airport, or maybe you’re daring enough to ask about going for a hike. What really shows a strong relationship is when the two of you start doing things that you haven’t explored too deeply before. This can be intimidating, especially when creative dates can entail a never-ending list of expenses. But I’m not really talking about dates, which are definitely an important part of relationships (see below), but about ongoing activities. If you can handle it, reading the same book at the same time can actually be a lot of fun. Books may not be for you, so watching a seriously terrible Netflix comedy together may be your style (we like Trailer Park Boys a lot).
3. Your Sex Life Is Evolving
Before I get into this I want to say that I’m not attempting to tell anyone what to do, you can wait until marriage or beyond if you want to.
The first time with someone new can be the best sex you’ve ever had in your life. The way their skin feels against yours, that little thing they do…you were surprised at first but it really brought you some place you’ve never been. This is fairly common – most people get a thrill from doing new things. Your first time with someone should only be a starting point (we know you were in missionary the whole time).
Getting kinky is great option, provided that you’re being safe and consensual as you should always be. I was amazed the first time I visited a sex shop and found how relaxed the atmosphere was, with one woman even commenting to herself, “What do you get for a girl who already has everything?” She was standing near the whips/ miscellaneous leather goods section, just for context. Don’t be ashamed of trying something, because nobody outside your relationship has any right to know anything. Also, please PLEASE communicate! Have some pillow talk afterwards and ask each other what you liked, were indifferent about, or were made uncomfortable by. If something really is uncomfortable though, you should be speaking up while it’s happening.
4. Knowing That Time Apart Can Be Important
Instead of being sad when that special person is away, you are looking forward to what it will be like when they return. The reunion can be a magical time when your feelings become overwhelming, as in “Why are you crying?” Followed by, “I didn’t know that I was crying.” Time apart gives each of you time to think about what you appreciate in the other person and time to let dissipate anything that gets under your skin. When you’re falling asleep in bed alone and you’re longing for their scent, you know what’s truly important.
This isn’t to say that you don’t miss them terribly, but it’s more of an appreciative sort of ache.¬ If you’re paralyzed with depression when you’re apart then there will be a harsh reality check coming up. Relying on someone else to survive is no way to live you life. Enjoying survival because of another person, however, can be what life is all about.
5. You Start To Become More Like Each Other
This is mostly self-explanatory, but psychology backs it up. When you like someone you want to be more like them. This may be in speech (I’ve become decent with a New York accent), music tastes, friends, weekend ventures, or even your attitude. When you’re with someone, you shouldn’t be trying to change each other but you may ultimately change yourselves. This is one of my favorite things to observe in other couples, because it says that their relationship is going to last.
6. …But you maintain your own identities
Couples that don’t have any contrasting characteristics are scary and cult-like. There’s no way you both have the same favorite movie, song, and favorite color. Don’t lie to me. MAUVE? Everything you own is fifty shades of gray, so don’t try to pull the wool over my eyes. But seriously, that creeps people out.
7. Saying “I Love You” Means Something
Ever since our first boyfriends and girlfriends, we’ve wanted to say, “I love you” just like the people in movies. But let be honest here – love is something that takes time. While love takes many different forms, it has never been my experience that it is instantaneous. Love-at-first-sight is an infatuation; an appreciation for another person. Love is about trust and a mutual understanding of values. Love is a complex object that, one built, can withstand a lot of damage and a long time. But it’s not forever unless it’s maintained and cared for.
The sign to look for is that when “I love you” is said, there is some obvious feeling behind it even if it is only a text message. Saying those words out of habit and not out of feeling is a bad thing to start doing and can be the single most damaging factor to the actual feelings behind the words. Starting to say those three words before it is time can also be a bad thing, so why not wait until you’re sure? “I love you” is one of those things that you think you know about until you do know, and then you’re sure. But you already know this; you’re in a good relationship.
8. You’re Not Worried About Breaking Up or Cheating
So many people in relationships are worried about upsetting their significant other and being broken up with. The same goes for cheating, i.e. “What if he cheats on me while he’s at that bachelor party?” If you’re actually that worried about it, what makes you think it hasn’t happened already? A good relationship will have no evidence that a there will be an upcoming breakup or a potential opportunity for cheating. If your partner were in a room full of naked, consenting models, would they lose control? If you answered yes to the above, you either have trust issues or a partner that is definitely going to cheat on you. Would your partner break up with you if you shaved your hair off or did some other ridiculous thing to your appearance? That’s not a good sign.
9. You Make Sacrifices To Maintain Their Happiness
Your happiness is just as valid as theirs, and you recognize that. Sure, you’d really like to go to that football game you’ve been waiting for three months to go to but their mother’s 60th birthday is today and you’re going to leave at halftime because it’s the right thing to do. The best part is, you’re not even upset about it.
This applies in the bedroom too. Yeah, you’ve never considered putting that in there but it’s not going to cause damage, you’re not morally opposed to it, and it doesn’t frighten you so why not? Pleasing your partner makes you just as happy as it makes them."
I wanna have all these with you.. some i think we already have.. i just needa re-ignite it again...
Honey, think of why u choose me can. see that its choose and not chose. but i wanna be ur present n future too.
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honey ah honey.. although i really dont wanna think this way.. and i dont know if im thinking too much but i think i probably isnt??? but i think that u are purposely delaying your replies.. like really really delaying a long long time.. like one day u hardly send me 3-4 texts? the time lapse is like 4-5 hrs sometimes? sighs... as much as i try my best to focus on the good.. will my honey be mine.. will my honey wanna hear from me more?
It's always ♀ ♡ ♂ Never ♂ ♡ ♀; if only...
